As I grow wiser in years, I have discovered that true happiness is reliant on choosing your own sustainable pace. Pace at which you live, love and work. Over the years I have been guilty of taking on too much. It’s a woman thing. We all do it. We don’t want to decline requests upon our time. These requests come from many directions – partners, children, friends, work colleagues and the simple need to get something done. We take on just one more thing. Sometimes even with the imminent risk of breaking the camel’s (our) back, we still do it. The movie ‘I Don’t Know How She Does It’ starring Sarah Jessica Parker, and adapted from the best selling book by Allison Pearson, sums it up beautifully.
Juggling becomes a way of life and sleep is a distant memory … well it was, but not any more. I have taken my own advice and learnt to say no more often. Still not as much as I should but a lot more than I ever did. I now take time out and head to the movies with my girlfriends, read a book or go shopping with my mobile phone turned OFF. The rest just has to wait somedays. And it will. Most demands aren’t going anyway… but the difference is … I am! I am going wherever I want to… within reason… and sometimes it’s just to the sofa. Even if my dogs bark for their dinner during my favorite television show, I no longer run to the refrigerator during the ad break. They are now learning to wait … they are not good at it yet but I am sure in time I will be able to hear Ridge and Brooke and not have to lip read over the woofs.
Pacing is important in writing too… you need the story to unfold at a pace that allows readers to get to know and understand your characters. The best books set a pace that leads you into the story then takes you on an exciting ride but now and then slows enough to let you catch your breath.
Well now to pace my evening …. I am off to soak in a tub…..
well I was …but the doorbell just rang and we have visitors for Greek Easter … so it looks like I will pace myself tomorrow.